"It's not a blessing until it is spoken"

My primary love language is words of affirmation. So today while reading Victoria Osteen's blog this portion shouted out to me! Enjoy! ;)

It's easy to take the people closest to us for granted. "I don't need to say anything to them," you might say. "They know I love them. She knows I think she is beautiful. He knows I think he is a great." Maybe so, but a blessing is not a blessing until it is spoken. When you release those positive, faith-filled words of affirmation, they will have a positive effect in the lives of the people you love. I am convinced that when we put family first, when we take the time and make the effort to be good to our family members and give them our best, then all the other relationships in our lives will improve as well.

Remember, the people in your inner circle not only want your approval—they need it. Life and death is in the power of your tongue, and the seed you sow will produce a harvest for your own future. Speak words of faith and victory into your loved ones and set yourself up for a harvest of victory in your own future.

Love ya,

Sweet lady!

Stay tuned......

Hello Everyone! I trust and believe that everyone is having a great week!! Soooo this blog will be all about affirmations. A few blogs back I wrote about affirmations but this time I want to go a tad bit deeper…Come with me! J

Many of my blogs are about what you feel on the inside and not letting that affect you. Your feelings should not have a vote. I am gonna let a lil bit of the past few months of my life out in this post. So stay tuned for more J

Agenda!

Hey yall!

 It’s been a while. I have had a crazy few months but I am back at it! Soooo How is everyone? Great I hope!  J Anywho, on to the topic at hand…..

Planning! I am a major planner. I like things to happen just how I envisioned and no different. Well a lil special surprise here and there doesn’t hurt! I LOVE surprises! They are the best! Often times I find myself thinking and planning for events, trips, meetings, mani/pedi days or just me time that may be days, weeks , months or even years away. Recently some of my planning has resulted in worrying. NO BUENO! I have God, why worry right!?!  So because of that I had come up with this thought that I need to stop planning and just let things happen. Easy right? Not for a control freak. Well today while having some quiet time, I read this in my study bible,

“We can make plans but the lord determines our steps. Proverbs 16:9 (NLT)”

“We can make our own plans but the Lord gives the right answers Proverbs 16:1 (NLT

In the notes at the bottom of my Life Application Bible it explains the following…

                “This verse can be understood to mean that the final outcome of the plans we make is in God’s hand. If this is so why make plans? In doing God’s will, there must be partnership between our efforts and God’s control. He wants us to use our minds to seek the advice of others and to plan. Nevertheless, the results are up to him. Planning then helps us act God’s way. As you live for Him, ask for guidance as you plan and then act on your plan as you trust Him”

So today I learned that it is ok to plan but I must allow the results of what I have planned to be totally up to God and to be CONTENT when they don’t add up to the results I had envisioned. I know that with God all things will work together for my good. That means I must go through some pain, discomfort, uneasiness and even loneliness.  But those FEELING are only for a season and God has a harvest on the other side of those. So I must discipline myself to push through my emotional fits (Yes, we all have them from time to time) and keep my eyes fixed on God and then one day I will look around and all that I have planned will be added unto me! THANK YOU GOD for speaking to my spirit today!!

Love ya,

Sweet Lady J

My return

I have been super busy lately but I hope to write a new entry this week! Cant wait to get back to blogging! :)

Draw Close to God

James 4:1-10

4 What is causing the quarrels and fights among you? Don’t they come from the evil desires at war within you? ² You want what you don’t have, so you scheme and kill to get it. You are jealous of what others have, but you can’t get it, so you fight and wage war to take it away from them. Yet you don’t have what you want because you don’t ask God for it. ³ And even when you ask, you don’t get it because your motives are all wrong—you want only what will give you pleasure.

⁴ You adulterers!^[a] Don’t you realize that friendship with the world makes you an enemy of God? I say it again: If you want to be a friend of the world, you make yourself an enemy of God. ⁵ What do you think the Scriptures mean when they say that the spirit God has placed within us is filled with envy?^{[b] 6} But he gives us even more grace to stand against such evil desires. As the Scriptures say,

“God opposes the proud
    but favors the humble.”

⁷ So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. ⁸ Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world. ⁹ Let there be tears for what you have done. Let there be sorrow and deep grief. Let there be sadness instead of laughter, and gloom instead of joy. ¹⁰ Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up in honor.

I will be meditating on this this week and wanted to share with you!

Sweet Lady :)

Adpating equals peace and unity......

 Seeds for a Harvest of Peace and Unity

This post comes from Pastor Joel Osteen's wife, Victoria Osteen. Her website is http://www.victoriaosteen.com/. I think this came at perfect timing as I am currently reading, "The 5 Love Languages" By, Gary Chapman. It's a great book and I think it's a MUST read. All of our communications styles can need a lil bit of altering from time to time. This will allow us to adapt to the people around us to form the best relationships possible. Please enjoy this post.

March 30, 2012

Not long ago, Joel and I were visiting with some friends in California, and I began sharing a funny story about something that had happened to us during our travels. One of our friends started laughing and nodding his head just as I was getting into the good part, so I paused and asked, "Have you heard this story before?"

"Yes," he answered, "three minutes ago when Joel told it. But please continue because your version is much funnier. Joel didn't share all of those details with us!"

Now, it's no secret that men and women communicate differently, and Joel and I are no exception. It doesn't mean that one of us is better than the other; it simply means that we're wired differently. So we have to learn how to adapt to one another's communication style. Over the years, I've learned that Joel doesn't like hearing every single detail of a story even though I do. I want to know exactly what was said, who said it, how they said it, and what they were wearing! That's why it can take me fifteen minutes to tell a story that Joel can tell in two minutes flat! Knowing this, I try not to tell him every detail, although it's not always that easy.

One time, I was enthusiastically telling Joel something that I thought was important, and just as I was getting to the good part, I noticed his eyes beginning to glaze over. So I began talking faster and faster, attempting to get the whole story out before I "lost him," but it didn't do any good. Finally I said, "You don't want to hear all of this, do you?"

It wasn't what he said; it was how he looked. I could tell by his body language that I lost him after the first three minutes. At first I got frustrated and thought, I am not telling him anything anymore! But of course, that didn't last. So I just made the necessary adjustments in my communication with him, and now I try to tell him only the most important details of the story. (You and I know he's missing the real juicy parts!) When I see his eyes start glazing over, I don't get upset. It's just my clue that he is going into "detail overload," so I adapt to his communication style.

Maybe you're reading this and thinking, "Victoria, why would you change yourself in order to please Joel?"

The truth is that I'm not changing who I am; I'm changing the way I communicate so I can have a better relationship with my husband. I want Joel to hear me, so I adapt to the way he listens best. It is good for me and good for him.

What can you do to adapt your communication style to others? When you put others first, you are sowing good seeds that will produce a harvest of peace and unity in the relationships in your life!

"Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another" (Romans 12:10, NKJV).

Affirm on Purpose.... Life on Purpose (Coming soon)

" You reap what you say" -Brett Bonner